Experiencing a loved
one dying is never easy, but it can be
especially difficult when a young person
passes on.
If you can fathom--even
a little bit--a rhyme and reason behind
children dying, you're becoming adept at
looking beyond appearances and trusting the
spirit/energy that is all.
Working at hospitals
around dying children is a key reason I was
so motivated to determine whether we survive
death and to search for sensible answers to
why there is so much suffering on this
planet.
Why does a child die?
Here's the short answer: it was the souls
time to graduate. Although he or she didn't
want to leave loved ones, it was time to
return Home and prepare for the next
experience amidst eternity.
I addressed the pain
and questions surrounding the death of a
child in several sections of my
"Soul Proof"
book. Here's one of them . . .
Even though "death"
seems more timely for a ninety-five year-old
versus a five year-old, the evidence
indicates that
earth-age and soul-age
are quite different.
A deceased child's soul might have been more
evolved than that of a nonagenarian, thus
the abbreviated earth visit. That is, a
five-year-old in earth years may be a very
old and wise soul, thus his or her brief
incarnation.
An enlightened
perspective reminds us that five or
ninety-five earth-years are just a blink of
an eye in spirit-time.
The reality of
spiritual realms is difficult for some to
fathom because the physical world seems so
overwhelmingly real.
In How Can I Help?,
Ram Dass and Paul Gorman share a powerfully
instructive story about the great Tibetan
teacher Marpa: "One day, Marpa's eldest son
was killed. Off by himself, alone with his
grief, Marpa wept.
One of his students
approached him and said, 'I don't
understand. You teach that all this is
illusion, created by the clinging and desire
and resistance. Yet here you are weeping. If
all this is illusion, why do you grieve so
deeply?' Marpa replied, 'Yes,
everything here is
illusion. And the death of a child is the
greatest of these illusions.'"
What a blessing to see
through the illusion that physicality is all
there is.
Many people suffer
grievously when their loved ones--especially
children--change worlds.
While presenting
workshops around the country, I've met
people with incredibly difficult challenges.
For example, one woman in South Carolina had
seven preg-
nancies: of those, four
were miscarriages and two died at a young
age.
She said that she
couldn't have survived all that pain without
personal faith and knowledge of life after
death.
When children pass on,
their loved ones have two choices: they can
become bitter, lose faith, and use that
tragedy to further prove that the world is
unjust, chaotic, and Godless.
Or, they can use
that pain to help others in some way. They
can honor the deceased by
learning and growing
spiritually.
They can incorporate
the strengths of their departed loved one
and apply those spiritual gifts to improve
the world.
Finally, they can
take solace in the evidence that the child's
soul was apparently ready to graduate into
another realm.
During our radio
interview, I asked Dr. Wayne Dyer, "What do
you tell parents whose little children have
passed on?"
He answered: "That
there is no death, that's not a possibility.
We are never born and we never die. Our true
essence is that we are spiritual beings
having a human experience.
"When God calls Home
young people, they were only here for that
amount of time because that's all the time
they chose to
be here.
"Self-actualizing
people get over death almost as if it didn't
happen because for them it doesn't happen.
"Once you see that,
you realize you can never be separate from
them. There's a sacred hoop that connects
all of us."
These viewpoints are
reminiscent of St. Paul's exhortations to
remember the good news of our true nature.
Then we realize the meaning of I Corinthians
15:55, "O' death, where is thy sting? O'
grave, where is thy victory?"
The faith of some
people is understandably shaken by apparent
tragedies such as the death of children.
Knowledge of our
soul natures helps lightens these great
challenges in several ways.
Short earthly lives are
called 'filler' incarnations and may be
primarily designed to help others learn
lessons. Even brief visits by a soul
disguised as a child can deeply touch many
hearts and open minds.
I know of several cases
in which families were brought closer
together and onto
the spiritual path
after a little one changed worlds.
Finally, remember
that in a relatively short time, you will be
with your departed loved
ones again.
