by Mark Pitstick MA, DC
If you’ve not already, please read . . .
- ‘The Great News‘ (article #19 at SoulProof.com/Articles)
- ‘Eight Developments for Widespread Conscious Living Now’ (#125)
- Greater Reality LIVING Program: Integrating ‘The 8 Developments’ Into Your Daily Life (#72)
- Greater Reality HEALING Program: Journeying FROM Deeply Grieving TO Brightly Shining (#82)
The evidence-based information and holistic resources outlined in these articles will help you to:
- realize your true nature as an eternal being of consciousness / life-force / energy
- receive guidance and assistance from highly evolved energies and Source / The Light
- heal old wounds, release lower energies, and update erroneous teachings
- create the greatest life YOU have envisioned (YOU = your higher self / soul)
- help others by sharing your greatest gifts
- make our world a better place
As enough people do this, widespread personal and planetary change will naturally unfold.
The Love, Acceptance, and Forgiveness Technique
Note: The free audio program for this technique is available at SoulProof.com/Shop. In return for this free program, I ask that you use it fully, share with others, and help others in ways you feel called to pay it forward.
The information in this article is shared in the introduction and session tracks of that audio program.
Disclaimer
This session is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. Do not participate in this session if you feel uncomfortable at any time. Ask your therapist or physician before using this technique if you are under care for significant depression, anxiety, or any other “mental” symptoms.
Introduction
This technique is a powerful way to heal old wounds, release the past, and enjoy present moment living. This approach usually works well whether the person causing past suffering is still living on earth or has passed on.
Hating, holding on to the past, and blaming others or yourself waste so much precious time and energy. There’s a better way. The Love, Acceptance, and Forgiveness Technique allows you to integrate all parts of yourself so you are operating on full power.
You may have noticed that the first three letters of love, acceptance, and forgiveness are LAF. You can laugh, learn, and love more by using this technique on a regular basis. You don’t have to carry around the past anymore. You deserve to be happy, healthy, and energetic now and the world needs your brightest light and greatest gifts.
By the way, I am not at all minimizing your pain or struggle. From personal and professional experience, I know that difficulties from the past can feel devastating, and the prospect for healing those may seem hopeless. However, I also know that healing and transformation is possible. I have learned how to do it and know many people – including those who were abused in multiple and horrible ways – who have benefited from this approach. It’s not easy, but it is possible and the potential benefits are well worth the effort.
I recommend using this technique once or twice a week for a few weeks. Decrease the frequency when you notice there isn’t as much impetus for using it. Over time, you can work through old layers of hurt, anger, pain, guilt, blame, sadness, and other lower energy emotions. As those are released, higher energy ones – love, peace, joy, fulfillment, gratitude, and enthusiasm – can become your new set point.
The first part of the session allows you to begin forgiving, accepting, and loving someone who hurt you. The second part gives you the opportunity to do the same to an earlier version of yourself who thought, said, or did something that you would like to heal and release.
I will use a standard induction process using alternating contraction and relaxation of major muscle groups. Then I will have you visualize a series of events, for example, walking down a staircase as I count from 10 to 1. These multi-sensory exercises are designed to deeply relax your brain so it quiets its usual analyzing and judging.
Your answers may come through like fragments, a full and rapid download, or an entire movie in sequential order. Pay special attention to symbols, words, feelings, or inner knowing. During this session, you may experience yourself being intensely involved, as though it is really happening, or viewing it impassively from a detached perspective. These details don’t matter.
In general, trust your first thought – whatever pops up or floats in. There is no pass or fail so relax and enjoy the experience. The feeling that “I’m just making this up or imagining it” is common and OK. Trust that you will remember everything you’re supposed to afterwards.
Don’t be tied to my verbs about how you sense this experience. Some people see more easily whereas others perceive better by hearing, feeling, or knowing. So, for example, if I say: ‘See yourself walking down ten steps’, you may not be able to visualize that, but you might hear your footsteps, feel yourself descending, or knowing you are going down the stairs.
For simplicity and because the great majority of mistreatment is committed by men, I will use the pronouns ‘he’ and ‘him’ throughout. Simply change those to ‘she’ and ‘her’ if a female is involved.
The following remarks are very important; I will repeat them during the actual session . . .
You can visualize the person who hurt you in any way you like: as a little baby, as he appeared at the time of abuse, or as he looks now. If his body has died, you can picture him lying in a coffin, or as a pile of ashes in an urn.
During the session, you may not feel like expressing love, acceptance, and forgiveness. In addition, you may rightfully believe that the other person doesn’t deserve to be loved, accepted, and forgiven. If that is the case, do it for yourself and those in your life.
Your statements can be general or specific. For example, you could say: ‘I forgive you for mentally abusing me on my 13th birthday’ or ‘I forgive you for everything you did.’
For forgiveness, it doesn’t matter if you feel that toward him yet or not. To start the process of healing, just say you are forgiving whether you really mean it or not. Remember the old saying, ‘To become, act as if’ and plant seeds of forgiveness.
What you envision for forgiveness may differ depending on whether you had any role in the problem.
If you were not at all involved in the cause and effect – at least as far as can be discerned from a limited earthly perspective, imagine the offending person expressing forgiveness toward himself. That will the first step toward him becoming a better person and soul. Even if you don’t believe he deserves forgiveness, visualize this to prevent others from being hurt. Imagine him saying, ‘I forgive myself for what I did to you. I was so wrong. I am truly sorry. I need to forgive myself so I can heal and do better in the future.’
If you had some role in the problem, you could see him saying: “I forgive myself and you for our parts in this” or whatever words seem most appropriate to you.
Regarding acceptance, see yourself accepting what happened instead of carrying that millstone around your neck forever. Do this even if you don’t really feel that you have accepted him and what happened.
When it comes to expressing love toward the person involved, you can add any modifiers you want. Examples include: I love you as another child of God’, ‘I love you as a part of creation’, ‘I love you even though you hurt me’, ‘I love you despite your imbalance’, or ‘I’m going to say I love you even though I don’t feel that at all.’ To be clear, your statements are not expressions of affection or condoning what he did to you. They are a recognition that we all do the best we can given our awareness at the time. Perhaps your abuser was abused himself; you have an opportunity to break the chain of dysfunction and release it now.
After you have expressed love, acceptance, and forgiveness to the person who hurt you, see / hear / feel / know him expressing the same to you. Please do this even if you don’t feel like doing so or think healing is possible. This part of the session may differ depending on whether:
- You were completely innocent, e.g., a child who was sexually molested by an adult. In that case, imagine the offending person expressing forgiveness toward himself. It would also be optimal for him to take responsibility for what he did so please picture him saying that he accepts what happened. Likewise, it would be best for everyone if he recognized your inherent worth as a special part of creation, thus the importance of picturing him saying ‘I love you.’ Or,
- You had a role in the problem, e.g., it took two to conduct that tug of war but you didn’t realize that at the time. If this is the case, see him saying: “I forgive myself and you for our parts in this.” Then visualize him saying, “I accept what happened. I wish I could go back and change it, but I can’t.” Finally, hear or see him saying, “I love you as a part of creation” or however you want to word it.
(Parenthetically, life is much more vast, loving, creative, and ultimately fair than you may imagine. Might it be that there are great blessings, not despite but because of, your suffering? Could it be that, in the big picture of life, your abuse was a silver lining that has or hasn’t yet been realized? There is some evidence that soulmates may choose to very temporarily play the roles of victim and abuser for the growth, love, and service opportunities therein. If this sounds like crazy talk, don’t worry about it. But those who can expand their hearts and minds beyond the usual human levels may want to think upon the possibility that contrast souls may exist in our lives for meaningful reasons.)
You may need to repeat a few sessions with a particular person or yourself using different words or images. At some point, you won’t feel any unfinished business although you might later. Do this with as many people and past events that pop up.
The background music is “Aura of the Heavens” by Jim Butler, royalty-free music that I purchased.
Recommendations Before the Session
Be completely rested since this deep relaxation technique is very conducive to sleep.
Eat a light, healthy meal beforehand so you aren’t hungry or have low blood sugar.
Avoid excess caffeine or sugar for 24 hours.
Avoid using alcohol or recreational drugs for at least three days.
Generate a list of past, present, or future changes and challenges. This is your big chance to make a list of everyone – including yourself – you would like to love, accept, and forgive. You will have the opportunity to examine two areas of your life in each session and can repeat the technique as often as you like.
Get as relaxed as possible before the experience.
Wear comfortable clothing that will not bind as you sit or lie still for about 30 minutes.
Bring lip salve to prevent dry lips during the open-mouth breathing.
Drink some water and use the bathroom just before your session.
Turn off any phones, pagers, or other potentially interrupting devices
Set an intention to learn just what you need at this time to greatly improve your life.
Remember that your experiences may be subtle or dramatic. Suspend judgment by your analytical brain—there are no wrong answers.
You can audio-record your session and review your answers later.
After the Session
Enjoy some quiet time to internalize your lessons, insights, and inner peace.
Be careful and really focus if you drive soon afterwards.
If you audio-recorded your session, listen to it and share with trusted loved ones if you like.
Keep a journal to note any additional insights that arrive in dream or waking states.
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Thank you for telling others about this article! Your life, and that of others around you, will be more enriched when you:
- read the article again so you really know it.
- discuss with close family and friends to more deeply internalize it.
- take action steps that seem right for you.
- share it with others via social media, discussion groups, and other ways.
Hugs, love, blessings, and let it shine!
Mark
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
author, lecturer, counselor, and holistic chiropractic physician; spokesperson, research assistant, and strategic planner for the SoulPhone Project; founder of Greater Reality Living, Healing, Helping, and Sharing Programs
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Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is a master’s clinical psychologist, holistic chiropractic physician, and clinical nutritionist. He has also helped others in pastoral counseling and suicide prevention / education settings. His goal is to help you know and show that this earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst eternity.
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