by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
Admittedly, I was brain weary after doing ‘spirit’ communication research and data analysis many hours per day for many weeks. I left the Laboratory for Advances in Consciousness & Health at the University of Arizona to have a lunch break with some new friends. After a wonderful meal of Indian food with Jeff and Lynn, I pulled out my wallet to pay. Jeff insisted it was their treat so I put my billfold back into my sweater pocket.
Several hours later, I reached for my wallet but couldn’t find it. You know that feeling. I went through all the steps: revisited the restaurant, asked the staff, patrolled the parking lot, looked in trashcans, searched the car three times, reported the lost credit cards, contacted the police, etc. Nothing.
I had lost my wallet, $270 cash, 3 credit cards, driver’s license, Medicare card, and more. At first, I experienced typical reactions: discouragement, frustration, self-blame, incredulity, and a little anger at myself.
After two hours, I remembered . . . there always are blessings to every adversity. The question is whether and how soon we look for and implement them.
I had done everything I could to find my wallet. Now my task was to let it go and find the silver linings. I took a few minutes to create a list of blessings . . .
- My fiancé Andy was in Europe by herself at the time. Perhaps hearing about my loss made her be more cautious and prevented a similar loss or a more serious event.
- Old karma? Perhaps I was a pick-pocket in another time and place. If so, perhaps losing my wallet burned away some old lower energies.
- An opportunity to accept responsibility. I had taxed my brain so much for so long that I didn’t pay attention to an important detail.
- A chance to forgive the person who found it and didn’t report it to the police.
- Maybe the new owner of my wallet needed the money more than I.
- I may have had a disabling or fatal auto accident if I had been driving elsewhere besides back to the restaurant to look for it.
- Gratitude for being financially well off, having emergency cash, and having a great support system.
- A new moment in which to have more compassion for those who don’t have #7.
- A chance to encourage others to be cautious and have a safety net.
- A great test to see how much I have evolved.
- A drill to see how long it took me to practice what I teach.
- This was a very minor loss compared to what many people go through.
- Gratitude for never having lost my wallet before.
- It’s not that big a deal in the long run.
- A chance to focus on life’s big picture. For example, I had finished my second day of conducting research with two post-material persons. How important is that compared to losing my wallet?
- A reminder that being happy is a moment to moment decision. I’ve met happy poor people and unhappy rich people. I decided to not let losing a wallet make me unhappy.
- Motivation to write this article and help others.
I took a long walk, did some yoga, and meditated so negative emotions didn’t lodge in my body. That helped me realize that I needed to accept it and move on.
The most wonderful blessing – that wouldn’t have occurred if I hadn’t lost my wallet – occurred five days later. For the first three days, a rubber band secured some cash and a business card with my emergency info on it.
After receiving a new credit card, I upgraded to a clear plastic snack-size baggie.
Accepting that my wallet was really gone, I stopped by a store to buy a new one. They didn’t carry them but I bought some batteries that I needed.
As I stood in the check-out line, I noticed that the cashier – an elderly but robust African-American woman – had positive interactions with each customer. Her love and light shined so brightly that each person left with a smile. I commented on how she brightened the day for others. Upon hearing that, she put one hand over her heart and pointed upward. “That’s God. Everyday, I pray: ‘Lord, help me help others.’”
As I started to pay, I showed her my ‘baggie billfold’. “Pretty pitiful, eh?” I said.
But she had a better perspective and obviously was a wise teacher. “Honey, that’s not pitiful. It’s just what you got to do for awhile.”
Her statement struck me as one of the wisest I’ve heard: “It’s just what you got to do for awhile.” I realized that could apply to all of us. We each are integral parts of the universe and eternal beings of light, love, energy, and much more. But living on earth with its accompanying spiritual amnesia can be very tough at times. Sometimes we forget life’s big picture and, as such, act in ways not congruent with our high natures.
No one else was in line so we just chatted for a while. An instant love connection with a person who was a stranger ten minutes earlier.
That may be more than you wanted to know about my wallet. But here’s the great news . . . unlike my wallet – YOU CAN NEVER LOSE A LOVED ONE OR YOURSELF.
I never saw that wallet and its contents again. But when you think you ‘lose’ loved ones – people or pets – you can be sure that you will see them again.
It is my conscious belief – an automatic ‘set point’ – that Universe / Life / One Mind is loving, fair, and supportive. I also believe – based on personal experience and much evidence – that I have everything I need to handle all life’s challenges with style.
You’re welcome to borrow these core beliefs and try them out when you encounter loss.
Here’s my new and improved wallet. Similarly, you and your dear ones get a new and improved body – and much more – after your current earth-suit dies. I hope this article helps you see the big picture of life more of the time, even during challenging times when you encounter loss.
Thank you for sharing this article with others who can use it. I hope that this article – and taking the action steps discussed – help you feel more happy, healthy, peaceful, clear, and energetic. You deserve to feel that way and the world needs your greatest gifts.
Life and love are forever. Shall we live accordingly?
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, master’s clinical psychologist, holistic chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and webinar / workshop facilitator. He directs The Soul Phone Foundation and founded Greater Reality Living Groups. Dr. Pitstick can help you know and show– no matter what is happening to or around you – that your earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit SoulProof.com for free articles, newsletters, and radio interviews with top consciousness experts.
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Disclaimer: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. My remarks are based on over forty-seven years of study, training, personal experience, and professional service. Extensive clinical, scientific, and empirical evidence supports much, but not all, of what I say.
My current best understandings may change over time. I do not claim to have all the answers or the only answers. My hope is that this information assists you to consider what makes the most sense to you.